Fourth Sunday of Advent: Mary, Elizabeth, and the LGBT Family

This Advent season, Bondings 2.0 invites you to take a spiritual journey through guided reflections on the readings of the season’s four Sundays.  The reflection exercise below can be done individually, with a close friend, or in a faith-sharing group. The reflections are specially designed for LGBTQ people and allies.  

These Advent exercises are part of  New Ways Ministry’s new “Journeys” series: a collection of  Scripture selections, reflection questions, prayers, and video which was went live on our website in early November.    You can download PDFs of  the Advent reflections and the other Journeys exercises from our website.

We hope these spiritual aids will help all of you on your own journeys.

If you would like to share some of your reflections with other Bondings 2.0 readers, please feel free to post whatever responses you have in the “Comments” section of this post.

Fourth Sunday of Advent

Every family has unique and cherished traditions and stories. The oldest members are often the keepers of these riches and pass them on from generation to generation keeping alive a treasured link between past, present, and future.

By including the story of Mary visiting her pregnant cousin Elizabeth, the Gospel writer Luke gives us a rare glimpse into female friendship, motherhood, and familial support. The LGBT community is a big family, and, as such, it offers  the potential for a collective story and tradition. This Sunday opens up the perfect space to reflect on your own story and tradition, and knot it into the threads of the great LGBT story.

SCRIPTURE: Luke 1:39-45

Mary set out and traveled to the hill country in haste to a town of Judah, where she entered the house of Zechariah and greeted Elizabeth.

As soon as Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the child leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth, filled with the Holy Spirit, cried out in a loud voice and said –

“Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb. And how can this be, that the mother of the Messiah should come to me? For at the moment the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the child in my womb leaped for joy. Blessed are you who believed that what was spoken to you by the Lord would be fulfilled.”

For all the readings for the Fourth Sunday of Advent click here.


1) Jesus defined family as more than a biological reality (Matthew 12:50). As an LGBT person or ally, who is family to you and how has your family – traditional or chosen – shaped you to be a conduit of God’s love and holiness? What family stories or traditions do you bring that add color and texture to LGBT history, spirituality and pride?

2) Elizabeth and Zechariah are seniors recruited for a mission. They model intergenerational joy and sing songs of praise to the God who gives life (Luke 1:67-79). How do you envision yourself growing old? What are some of the joys and challenges you anticipate as an LGBT senior? Like Elizabeth and Zechariah, would you be open to extraordinary changes late in your life?

3) Elizabeth’s comment to Mary — “How can this be that the mother of the Messiah should come to me?”– suggests delight, awe, surprise and gratitude. Has the Mother of God invited you into her holy family?  If so, what feelings did it inspire in you? Mary journeyed with Jesus to the foot of the cross. How has she stood with you through your trials as an LGBT person or ally?

 4) Loneliness and social isolation are realities as we age. Older people who are LGBT are more likely to be single or live alone and not have children to care for them. The stories of the Annunciation and Visitation imply that we may be led to people, places and situations that we may never imagine. How can you contribute to a real-life social network to support and care for LGBT elders and encourage a mutual exchange of tenderness?

 5) Is Advent and Christmas, with its emphasis on family and relationships, a happy or anxious time for you?  Given your own unique gifts, story and tradition, how can you be an invaluable ministerial resource to those with unique emotional needs at this time of the year?


A Modern Magnificat

My soul sings in gratitude.

I’m dancing in the mystery of God.

The light of the Holy One is within me

and I am blessed, so truly blessed.

This goes deeper than human thinking.

I am filled with awe

at Love whose only condition

is to be received.

The gift is not for the proud,

for they have no room for it.

The strong and self-sufficient ones

don’t have this awareness.

But those who know their emptiness

can rejoice in Love’s fullness.

It’s the Love that we are made for,

the reason for our being.

It fills our inmost heart space

and brings to birth in us, the Holy One.

Joy Cowley

VIDEO: LGBT Seniors Tell Their Stories

The short film below captures the perspective of eleven LGBT seniors in Los Angeles who came of age during a time when imprisonment, daily discrimination, physical violence and abuse were commonplace. Exemplifying elegant survival, these individuals helped make the community we have today possible.

From the “Daughters of Bilitis” and “Mattachine Society” to the marches led by Frank Kameny and Barbara Gittings, the history of the LGBT movement has often been forgotten, overlooked or ignored. This film is an attempt to give voice to and shine the light on the stories and lives of these remarkable individuals who are our communal ancestors.


2 replies
  1. Friends
    Friends says:

    Just to note: the interviews with LGBT Seniors are truly fascinating and poignant. Theirs was the first generation to be fully impacted by the AIDS devastation, which at that time was neither understood nor medically treatable. My own beloved soul spouse, actor Jeffrey Mylett of “Godspell” (q.v.), was one of its early victims. Let us hold our lost loved ones deeply in our hearts, and in our prayers. “In Paradisum Deducant Te Angeli”.


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