Catholic School Suspends Gay Student for Seeking Same-Sex Homecoming Date

Lance Sanderson

Lance Sanderson, a senior at Christian Brothers High School (CBHS) in Memphis, who had sought permission to bring a same-sex date to the school’s Homecoming Dance last weekend, not only was excluded from last weekend’s dance, but found himself suspended by school officials when he arrived for classes on Monday.

Sanderson’s explained his request in a petition which has gained nearly 25,000 signatures:

“I just want to bring a date of my choice to homecoming like the rest of my friends and classmates. I’m not asking for special treatment. I’m just asking for respect, and the chance to make my last homecoming a truly memorable experience.”

A CBHS teacher told him last spring that the school “doesn’t discriminate” and the decision ultimately is the principal’s, Sanderson reported. When school resumed in September:

“One administrator told me that even though some people interpreted Pope Francis’s teachings on the issue as meaning they should support same-sex couples, these people are, ‘not the authority to which Christian Brothers High School is accountable.’ And now my school is making daily announcements across the whole school, saying that students can’t bring same-sex dates from other schools.”

Another administrator mentioned a gay couple he knew, saying Sanderson was “a lot like this one person” but that “the guy’s boyfriend murdered him” in an event the student understates as “a little rough.”

The daily announcement mentioned above is a new policy implemented in response to Sanderson’s request, reported The New Civil Rights Movement. It allows female dates from other schools, but “for logistical reasons” bars male dates.

Sadly, CBHS officials believe that seeking equality warrants a week long suspension for Sanderson. Called to the office when he arrived, Sanderson was told that the administration “had 890 other students to worry about” and did not “appreciate the unwanted publicity,” reported NewNowNext.

CBHS officials are defending their actions in a statement that claims outreach to gay students was a goal for the school year and that the community was “a kinder and gentler school. . .not homophobic.” Several steps, including training for teachers and appointing a gay alum to the board, are listed as evidence.

Having been out at CBHS since he was a freshman, this is not the first time Sanderson has faced harassment or discrimination. One time a classmate “kept referring to one of the main characters [in a movie the class was watching] as a ‘fag’ at least 17 times.”. However, receiving punitive sanctioning from the administration is new. Sanderson, still excluded from receiving his education this week, wrote a letter to school officials that said, in part:

“I am hurt by this exclusion. It goes against the Lasallian value of brotherhood that the school is supposed to stand for. You won’t let me dance with my date and you won’t let me go to class now either. I had hoped that today would be one for positive conversation going forward. Instead, I was sent home.

“I haven’t done anything wrong and haven’t hurt anybody. I want to be welcomed back to the school building today and I want this mean-spirited semi-suspension ended, so that I can do my classwork like anybody else.”

Thankfully, Sanderson is receiving growing support from the outside. Crowds at the Mid-South Pride Festival chanted “Let Lance dance!” over the weekend, including several gay CBHS alumni reported NewNowNext.

One gay alum, Mike Halford, is however defending the school’s actions, reported Fox 13. Halford claims the reasons behind the suspension are unclear and CBHS officials may simply choose to remain silent on these matters, though Halford is optimistic “eventually that part of the policy [on dance dates] will be changed.”

Administrators at Christian Brothers High School owe it to Lance, to the school community, and to Memphis Catholics to end that silence and be transparent about why they have pursued this course of action. There seems little reason other than punishment and intimidation why an otherwise good student like Lance Sanderson receives a week long suspension. Further, barring same-sex dates at Catholic school events is not the only option.

Other institutions, like McQuaid Jesuit High School in New York, have found ways of truly welcoming LGBT students when it comes to homecoming dances and proms. CBHS officials should apologize for the deep harm they have caused, welcome Sanderson back to classes immediately, and when prom comes in the spring, let Lance dance!

–Bob Shine, New Ways Ministry

11 replies
  1. Friends
    Friends says:

    Unbelievable. He needs to get an attorney and file a lawsuit against the school for illegal discrimination based upon his inherent sexual identity — seeking punitive damages as well as a rectification of the school’s discriminatory policy. There’s got to be a Federal Title — perhaps Title IX — which is directly applicable here. The school administration simply cannot be permitted to get away with this hateful (and in fact downright vicious) misbehavior. There’s got to be a top-drawer civil liberties attorney who would take the case “pro bono”, as a matter of basic social justice.

  2. Peter Mangini
    Peter Mangini says:

    Kudos to Lance! I admire him for his positive approach to take a date, of his choice, to the Prom. His approach was a positive & healthy one, to be fully who he is. Let Lance Dance!!!:):):)

  3. Paula Mattras
    Paula Mattras says:

    My heart aches for this young man. Life is hard enough and treating him like an outcast by the same folks who can still quote, “Love one another as I have loved you” seems hypocritical to me. The interpretation then gets twisted into “love one another as I direct you………..not as you truly feel.” There is an enormous difference here. Pray for enlightenment.

  4. poolgirl2
    poolgirl2 says:

    My son also attended and graduated from CBHS in Memphis. During his four years there he was tormented, harassed, ridiculed, excluded, and NOT protected in one way by the school. We went to the administration repeatedly with no success. We really did not understand what “gay” was and that he was gay, we just knew he had a lot of trouble with some of the boys. He attended the proms and homecomings with girls and never had difficulty finding dates.

    We offered to let him leave CBHS because of the problems. He chose to remain and to this day is a “Brothers Boy”. He does not support the school either financially or in alumni activities. Just too much bitterness. He has a few friends now that tormented him then. He is respected by some for his courage and stamina. If a “Brothers Boy” is in trouble, he will help him.

    It is tough to break the traditions, but perhaps a lot less turmoil would probably have been experienced if this young man had just been allowed to bring his date. Some parents would have pulled their boys out, some people would have teased, and some brothers would have had to face their own homosexual tendencies, some would have to confront their homophobia.

  5. Bill Freeman
    Bill Freeman says:

    Did you read on The New York Times? The pope met ‘in secret” with Kim Davis while in Washington. As the snake said to the little girl after he bit her, “you knew what I was before you picked me up.”

    • Friends
      Friends says:

      Well, a three year age difference between dating partners is hardly unusual — certainly at the college level, or among young adults in their 20s. I see no ethical issue there, as long as the partners are mature and consenting, and there is no coercion or exploitation involved. If Lance was a high school freshman, and his date was a college senior, I think there might be some eyebrows raised, and some legitimate concerns about potential sexual exploitation. But I don’t see any evidence of exploitation here. It appears that both of them really want to be together, and are willing to fight for the integrity of their personal relationship.


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