Fired Gay Musician's Meeting with Cardinal Shows Catholic Split on LGBT Issues

Supporters pray over Colin Collette during a vigil

Fired church worker Colin Collette will not be returning to his job, even after meeting with Cardinal Francis George of Chicago this week and ongoing protests from parishioners demand that he be rehired.

A subplot to this story, however, is how fractured the American bishops can often be when it comes to LGBT issues.

Collette asked for the meeting to discuss his dismissal as Holy Family Church’s choir director, which came about after Collette posted on social media about his engagement to William Nifong. Collette has previously expressed his desire to return to the staff of Holy Family, where he had worked for more than seventeen years and was loved by the community. A statement on the Cardinal George meeting from the former church employee reported by the Chicago Tribune was positive and quotes him as saying:

” ‘I was incredibly grateful to the cardinal for meeting with me. This is an incredibly difficult time for him [as George is undergoing cancer treatment]…I was moved beyond words that he would meet with me.We prayed together. He was wonderful. He was very pastoral.’ “

Though the cardinal willingly met with Collette, Michael O’Loughlin of Crux reports George placed blame for the “crisis” on the employee and said Collette’s choice to marry now makes working in a Catholic parish “impossible.”

Meanwhile, parishioners at Holy Family continue to demand justice for Collette. The Sunday before Collette’s meeting with the cardinal, supporters held a prayer vigil outside the church. In August, more than 700 people attended an August town hall called by the pastor, Fr. Terry Keehan, and support for Collette was overwhelming. Additionally, music ministers like Kevin Keane have resigned in protest and parishioners like Bill Leece have written to the media demanding an apology from Catholic leadership. One parishioner framed the new reality as, “Everybody was welcome…That’s become a lie.”

While Collette described the meeting with Cardinal George as pastoral, Chicago Catholics saw a different side to the prelate in his weekly column which viciously attacked marriage equality’s progress.

Highlighting the real, but bygone reality of anti-Catholicism in US history, George identifies LGBT advocates as imposing their views on society and anyone who objects “places their citizenship in danger.” Those who consider themselves “progressive” are, for George, the inheritors of the anti-Catholic of the nativists, the Know-Nothings, or the Ku Klux Klan. All of this results in a “crisis of belief” for Catholics, says the cardinal when American society becomes intolerant of those cannot continue discriminating. He sees the situation as comparable to Islam’s Sharia law.

Cardinal George’s arguments are flawed because there is neither a persecution of Catholics in the US nor does he seem to understand Sharia or LGBT issues.

What is notable is the contrast between Cardinal George’s interpersonal behavior, for I do not doubt Collette’s account that he was pastoral, and Cardinal George’s public persona which is harsh and embittered. How does this split develop and why can the cardinal not see that writing the column is pastorally damaging? Doesn’t he see thatLGBT people and their allies are indeed human persons worthy of his respect and compassion?

This fractured behavior, of personally being pastoral while publicly being partisan, is not unique to Cardinal George and by many accounts a few of the most anti-gay bishops are indeed quite compassionate people during personal encounters. As civil marriage equality progresses, church leaders need to address this dissonance that leads to so much damage, including the firing of LGBT church workers.

A new integrated approach is necessary when speaking with and about people who are in same-gender marriages. New Orleans Archbishop Gregory Aymond’s pastorally-inclined response to a Louisiana court’s ruling that the state’s ban on same-sex marriage rights could be one model of moving forward. Francis DeBernardo noted that the archbishop used minimalist language when discussing the marriage case, and shifted the emphasis to his renewed commitment to help LGBT Catholics and their families through pastoral outreach. While not perfect, Aymond’s example could be a way forward in rediscovering the “respect, compassion, and sensitivity” due to the LGBT community by church officials.

At the very least, leaning toward the pastoral could mean an end to the firing of LGBT church workers, many of whom could repeat Colin Collette’s words that “my whole life has been the church. It’s my love. It’s my passion, and I pray for the opportunity to [minister again].”

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–Bob Shine, New Ways Ministry

8 replies
  1. Larry
    Larry says:

    This is very much in a historical mode as when the virulently homophobic Cardinal O’Connor of NY visited hospitalized AIDS patients at the end of his tenure while never publicly denouncing all the very hateful words and actions he did against gay people during his time in office. Somewhere in their prelate brains they know what they do publicly is wrong and they balance that off by being “pastoral” in a very private setting. I am sure in their memoirs they will trumpet how wonderful they were to gay people just like our politicians (McNamara, Cheney etc) who write books exonerating themselves from the terrible damage they have done.

  2. James
    James says:

    I read the cardinal’s article. There are way too many exaggerated and distorted claims to try to address them all. I only have time for one: “We are told that, even in marriage itself, there is no difference between men and women.” I have never heard or read anyone claiming that differences do not exist between men and women. That is not the issue! The issue is that a growing number of people, Catholic and otherwise, believe that gender differences do not justify denying gay couples the right to obtain civil marriage licenses.

    My conclusion, based on his article, is that this man lives in a delusional fantasy. I feel sorry for the people who try to minister and live under his “spiritual guidance”.

  3. Bill Freeman
    Bill Freeman says:

    It just amazes me that people remain Roman Catholic. The message of hate and homophobia just couldn’t be clearer. Thirty-five years of JP2 and B16 appointments have created many, many George’s. It’s a waiting game and I don’t think Pope Francis has time on his side. The injustice here screams to heaven.

  4. brendathewriter
    brendathewriter says:

    It explains why so many Roman catholics are leaving the Vatican. Some join Womanpriest parishes, others join Independent or Old Catholic denominations. In the midwest one entire parish voted to leave the Vatican.

    Many are just leaving period, joining the largest Catholic denomination in the US – ex-Romans who keep the faith at home but do not belong to any church. That is the sadest outcome of all.

    the commenter above was right, Francis is gaining converts in places like the Ukraine and Africa who see no problem in harrassing and torturing, even killing non Vatican Catholics, while his flock is hemmoraging members elsewhere. I pray he is not too late to stem the tide, because non-Vatican Catholics grow in numbers daily and will not willingly be slaughtered by a pseudo city state that claims to have clean hands.

    He needs to speak up, publicly, soon, and remind these anti gay cardinals they are wrong. If not, the chorus of “all were welcome…but it was a lie” will grow louder.


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